During our lifetime, we may encounter hundreds (or perhaps thousands) of people. Among these people, some of them become our friends while the majority are just supposed to appear in our lives for a moment and then disappear in the crowd.
Consciously or unconsciously, friends may be put into different categories. Casual friends are likely the type of friends we have a looser relationship with. We may see them occasionally, and the conversation is pleasant and flows lightly without necessarily going to the depth.
Good friends or close friends may be those we feel comfortable to have a coffee and a long and deep conversation with. The comfort is often based on mutual trust and understanding over a long period of time.
The border between casual and close friends is sometimes hard to define, and the relationship between two friends is not always fixed and may move from one end to the other over time. The friendship becomes a bit problematic when there is a mismatch between the way we consider how close we are to a particular friend and the way he/she does. We may consider the person a close friend, but for him/her, we are placed in the “casual friend” category, and certainly the opposite may also be true. Too much attention from one side may be seen as inappropriate or even intrusive. A subtle, unspoken agreement of “the right category” seems to be necessary sometimes, but how to figure out whether we are placed in the category we think we are is the same as the one we are actually put in by our friend? Intuition certainly helps, but the intuition is not always reliable. Chemistry might be the right word, but chemistry between two people may also change over time.
I used to have two very good friends and I have known both for ages. I thought our friendships would last a lifetime. Gradually, the connection disappeared. Couples grow apart, the same pattern seems to apply to friends. It is always sad when a beautiful friendship comes to an end, but I think it is just the way life is, I should let it go and be grateful for the time they shared with me. Every friend enters my life for a reason, and they have contributed to make my life a richer and more colourful one.
I often have such a strange thought that when my last day comes, I hope I am able to keep a clear mind no matter how fatigue my body is, and then I will recall all the precious moments of my life and the people who have made my life a better journey. These lovely people would appear in my mind, in front of me, one by one, I would tell them how grateful I am to have them in my life, and how much their kindness, support, thoughtfulness and tolerance have meant to me.